The History of the Fork

Random word of the day is “fork.”

Did you know the use of a fork was once seen as evil?

The origins of the fork date back to the Eastern Roman Empire of Byzantium but some of the earliest known table forks made their debut in Ancient Egypt. The Qijia, who resided in part of present-day China, also are known to have used forks. The utensil migrated west after Byzantine princess, Theodora Anna Doukaina married the Venetian doge in 1075, brought the utensil to Venice. God-fearing Venetians saw the fork as a monstrosity.

God in his wisdom has provided man with natural forks – his fingers. Therefore it is an insult to Him to substitute artificial metallic forks for them when eating. -St. Peter Damian

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In the 16th century during the Italian Renaissance, the popularity of forks began to grow when Catherine de Medici brought along a set of eating forks from her native Florence to France. People also became more aware of hygiene and didn’t want their food covered in filth. Men still preferred to use their fingers as forks were deemed too feminine.

By the 18th century, the upper-class began carrying forks as part of their utensils set. During the industrialization period, the middle and lower-class gained access to the “split spoon.”

In 1633, John Winthrop, a founding father of the Massachusetts Bay Colony received a case of utensils accompanied by a note stating, “for the useful application of which I leave to your discretion.” At this time, the proper use of a fork was still unknown. Once the Americans grew accustomed to the fork, their dining etiquette was critiqued by international users. Everything from how Americans held the fork and whether or not the tines should be facing up or down as you ate the food was a source of controversy.

The popularity of forks blossomed and several variations were created.

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So the next time you use your fork, take a closer look. It had a long journey to become a staple in our lives.

 

Respect and Recognize Your Employees

Today’s word of the day is “employees.”

I’ve had the pleasure of working with amazing people throughout my career. Everyone had diverse backgrounds, personalities, and specialty they could contribute to the job. I’m happy to say I’ve remained friends with many of them. The only problem, the employees weren’t appreciated by management and/or the CEOs.

I’ve worked with two teams that were dedicated to their job and wanted to see the company thrive. We came up with amazing ideas and presented them to management only to get shot down. Both of these jobs had managements that would outright call your idea stupid in front of everyone. Even when we all agreed how great the idea was, the managers would go into a full-on rant as to why we’re all wrong. Sometimes the debates would go way off topic, get personal, and become a shouting match. It was ridiculous. Then lo and behold, another company had the same idea, ran with it, and it was a success for them. Then management yelled at us for not thinking of that idea when they were the ones who shot it down three months prior.

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One job, if they had listened to its employees, could have been elevated to the virality of Buzzfeed. Instead, the CEOs were oblivious to trends and had other money goals that had nothing to do with us. They were failing so much, they were losing money. By the time they actually did listen to us, it was too late. We were laid off. Not only were we laid off for financial reasons, but we also discovered the CEOs hadn’t paid the rent in months and they were getting evicted.  I think this is possibly one of the biggest company fails I’ve experienced. We could have been great.

Management needs to respect and recognize their employees. A well-rounded group of talent doesn’t come that often. When you have a group that is visibly dedicated to their work, take note of those employees. Don’t dismiss them or their ideas. Let employees know they’re valued. They were hired for their expertise. Utilize it. Listen, absorb, and implement their ideas when it can add to the success of the team and company.

Random Word Challenge: Chapters

It’s day three of my random word challenge. If you’re a bit confused, I’m using a random word generator to generate words in alphabetical order. Each day is a new letter and whatever word is generated is the word I write about.

Today’s word is “chapters.”

When I first saw this word, I couldn’t help but think of the chapters of life. I’ve met so many amazing people who have come and gone throughout my life. Whether through death or we drifted apart due to growing older. I’ve also met people who put on the facade of being good but they were narcissists, sociopaths, and downright disgusting people. There are some people I wish I’ve never met, but thinking back, they’ve only helped me get through the following chapters of my life.

Each person I’ve encountered in life is different and I’ve learned from them in some way. I’ve learned what real friendship is, what a user looks like, the subtle art of manipulation, how love feels, how love shouldn’t feel, and how my own personal values, morals, and worth plays a roll in all of my relationships.

I’ve known my closest friends for over 10 years. Although we’re still going strong as friends, we’ve had several chapters come to a close. These chapters include transitioning from teenagers to adults, going through our 20’s, helping each other through intimate relationships, arguing and disconnecting because of a disagreement, and reconnecting.

It’s amazing how we go through chapters in life learning little things, but we get the true ah-ha moment once we start reflecting. We may feel as though we ended a chapter, but sometimes we go back to it through memories and realize we’re still learning. After deep reflection, we end the chapter and feel more relief than when we first thought our minds were settled. Amazing how that works.

I’ve done some deep thinking over the past few years. Although I’m continuing with my life, my previous chapters are still there. Some more than others. Those chapters are the ones that are constant reminders to never put myself through something similar. One should never repeat a chapter of their life. Create new ones, but always remember the valuable lessons learned in previous chapters.

Random Word Challenge: Advice

As I sat at my desk thinking of something to write, I’ve decided I’m going to do a random word challenge using each letter of the alphabet. I’m using an online random word generator. I insert one letter and the first word that pops up is going to be the word I write about. If you’ve done a similar challenge or want to join me, let me know in the comments.

Today’s word is “advice.”

I’ve received advice throughout the years, but none of it stands out as deeply memorable. I have found people, including myself, who will give advice that we should be following ourselves. It’s amazing how we subconsciously try to teach ourselves through the advice we give to others. Unfortunately, we don’t realize what’s happening until the person we gave the advice to gives it back to us.

Imagine your friend’s relationship ended. You provide all of the advice needed to help them overcome the obstacle of restarting their life without their lover, how to occupy their mind so they aren’t constantly thinking about their ex, advice on what they should take away from the relationship to better themselves, and so much more. As soon as you go through a breakup, you instantly forget the advice you gave. Your friend is now the one regurgitating what you told them. Interesting how that works.

My advice to you, the next time you give advice, listen to your own words and analyze whether or not you need to apply those words of wisdom to your life. Your advice may be the subconscious pep talk you needed.

 

 

 

Blogtober: Mission Accomplished!

I DID IT!

This is my 31st article for the month of October officially completing Blogtober!

I took on the challenge on October 2 with no idea what to write. My website sat dormant for quite some time and I wanted to get back into the groove of writing. As a result of Blogtober, I purchased a domain and chose a theme. Something I’ve procrastinated doing for years.

I’ve never been this active on my site and I don’t plan on stopping. It feels good to get back into writing mode. I feel beyond accomplished right now. As basic as this goal was, I feel like I’ve done so much more.

Due to not planning my content in advance did add some stress because I didn’t want to fail. Two or three pieces of content were fillers and I feel a little bad about it, but my goal was to stay active. I mentioned in my progress article that I may do something similar again because it’s a great challenge.

I fell a little behind and posted three pieces of content today. Go ahead and judge me. Ha! I didn’t have to work yesterday or today, so why not make things more intense for myself during the final day.

If anyone reading this participated in Blogtober, how did you do? If you didn’t participate this time, give it a try! You don’t have to wait until October 2020 to do it.