Random Thoughts

Random Word Challenge: Chapters

It’s day three of my random word challenge. If you’re a bit confused, I’m using a random word generator to generate words in alphabetical order. Each day is a new letter and whatever word is generated is the word I write about.

Today’s word is “chapters.”

When I first saw this word, I couldn’t help but think of the chapters of life. I’ve met so many amazing people who have come and gone throughout my life. Whether through death or we drifted apart due to growing older. I’ve also met people who put on the facade of being good but they were narcissists, sociopaths, and downright disgusting people. There are some people I wish I’ve never met, but thinking back, they’ve only helped me get through the following chapters of my life.

Each person I’ve encountered in life is different and I’ve learned from them in some way. I’ve learned what real friendship is, what a user looks like, the subtle art of manipulation, how love feels, how love shouldn’t feel, and how my own personal values, morals, and worth plays a roll in all of my relationships.

I’ve known my closest friends for over 10 years. Although we’re still going strong as friends, we’ve had several chapters come to a close. These chapters include transitioning from teenagers to adults, going through our 20’s, helping each other through intimate relationships, arguing and disconnecting because of a disagreement, and reconnecting.

It’s amazing how we go through chapters in life learning little things, but we get the true ah-ha moment once we start reflecting. We may feel as though we ended a chapter, but sometimes we go back to it through memories and realize we’re still learning. After deep reflection, we end the chapter and feel more relief than when we first thought our minds were settled. Amazing how that works.

I’ve done some deep thinking over the past few years. Although I’m continuing with my life, my previous chapters are still there. Some more than others. Those chapters are the ones that are constant reminders to never put myself through something similar. One should never repeat a chapter of their life. Create new ones, but always remember the valuable lessons learned in previous chapters.

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Random Thoughts

Random Word Challenge: Advice

As I sat at my desk thinking of something to write, I’ve decided I’m going to do a random word challenge using each letter of the alphabet. I’m using an online random word generator. I insert one letter and the first word that pops up is going to be the word I write about. If you’ve done a similar challenge or want to join me, let me know in the comments.

Today’s word is “advice.”

I’ve received advice throughout the years, but none of it stands out as deeply memorable. I have found people, including myself, who will give advice that we should be following ourselves. It’s amazing how we subconsciously try to teach ourselves through the advice we give to others. Unfortunately, we don’t realize what’s happening until the person we gave the advice to gives it back to us.

Imagine your friend’s relationship ended. You provide all of the advice needed to help them overcome the obstacle of restarting their life without their lover, how to occupy their mind so they aren’t constantly thinking about their ex, advice on what they should take away from the relationship to better themselves, and so much more. As soon as you go through a breakup, you instantly forget the advice you gave. Your friend is now the one regurgitating what you told them. Interesting how that works.

My advice to you, the next time you give advice, listen to your own words and analyze whether or not you need to apply those words of wisdom to your life. Your advice may be the subconscious pep talk you needed.

 

 

 

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