Release Yourself from Expectations

The way we perceive the world is, in part, based upon our expectations. As we get older, we gain life experience and tend to expect certain behaviors, good or bad, from society.

I’ve learned through jobs, friendships, and intimate relationships that I cannot go into them bracing for impact or filled with excitement. I have to go in with zero expectations.

As I was researching essential oils and mental clarity, I discovered the term “shoshin.”

There is a concept in Zen Buddhism known as shoshin, which means “beginner’s mind.” Shoshin refers to the idea of letting go of your preconceptions and having an attitude of openness when studying a subject. When you are a true beginner, your mind is empty and open.

This is possibly one of the most important concepts to live by!

I constantly tell myself to go into every setting with an empty cup. If I go into a situation with a full cup, I won’t be present. I would have already walked in with a preconceived idea of what’s going to happen, how I’m going to react, and how things will end. My expectations would mentally prepare me to get rejected, not be heard, and to not get excited. Yes, this can be viewed as self-sabotage, but when you have these experiences multiple times, you brace for impact. There have been times when I’ve built positive expectations and thought of all of the wonderful possibilities only to have it get shot down because I was anticipating a better outcome.

With shoshin, you live your life with an openness which causes less anxiety. Whether you’re going on a date, you want a particular job, or something else you have a yen for, toss it into the universe and go with the flow. Conceive positive thoughts, but don’t fill your mind with the good or bad that may or may not happen. If it’s meant for you and you put the work in, it will come.

Keep your mind open, expect nothing, look for the good in each situation, but most importantly, keep your life moving.

Blogtober: Mission Accomplished!

I DID IT!

This is my 31st article for the month of October officially completing Blogtober!

I took on the challenge on October 2 with no idea what to write. My website sat dormant for quite some time and I wanted to get back into the groove of writing. As a result of Blogtober, I purchased a domain and chose a theme. Something I’ve procrastinated doing for years.

I’ve never been this active on my site and I don’t plan on stopping. It feels good to get back into writing mode. I feel beyond accomplished right now. As basic as this goal was, I feel like I’ve done so much more.

Due to not planning my content in advance did add some stress because I didn’t want to fail. Two or three pieces of content were fillers and I feel a little bad about it, but my goal was to stay active. I mentioned in my progress article that I may do something similar again because it’s a great challenge.

I fell a little behind and posted three pieces of content today. Go ahead and judge me. Ha! I didn’t have to work yesterday or today, so why not make things more intense for myself during the final day.

If anyone reading this participated in Blogtober, how did you do? If you didn’t participate this time, give it a try! You don’t have to wait until October 2020 to do it.