The Constant Game of Regret

Woulda, coulda, shoulda.

Odds are, you regret more than one thing in your life. Whether it’s a previous relationship, educational choice, job, or that one moment when you should have said yes or no. We’ve all been there. As we live our lives, the constant game of regret is neverending.

Why do we regret so much?

If you’re lucky to live your life without regret, good for you. Many people aren’t that lucky.

Regret can eat at you longer than it should. You start to wonder, “I should have…” or “Why did I say…?” Your imagination starts to create different scenarios with outcomes you’ll never experience. These imagined outcomes fester in your brain and create alternate outcomes that stress you out more.

Constantly wondering “what if” drives us crazy.

Sometimes regret comes years later after you’ve had time to process things or during an evaluation of your life. This form of regret can cause temporary emotions, but since you’re so far removed from it, the imagined outcome doesn’t bother you as much unless the past decision is impacting your present life.

We can’t help but regret certain choices.

I’ve fallen victim to this mental deceit more than I’d like to admit.  I know how to find that one little thing that I could have done better and it annoys me.

Focus on the now.

“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.”

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

So what’s the message here? We can’t rewind time. Regret isn’t always delusional. Learn from what you feel was a mistake, but don’t let it mentally destroy you. Sometimes there is an element to learn. To improve.

What’s done is done. It will be hard. Nothing is easy. We experience new things each day. Regret is bound to reappear, but stay focused on the positive outcomes from your choices. There’s always some good that came out of a decision. Whether that positive is large or small, it’s always present.

Regret is part of life. It’s normal. It’s annoying. In the end, it can be enlightening.

 

Blogtober: My Progress So Far

Blogtober has been interesting. I’m a day or two behind with posts but will make that up before the month is over.

I stated in a previous post that I wouldn’t create an editorial calendar to plan my month and will blog about whatever comes to mind. It’s interesting how many interesting ideas pop into my head, but those topics are deeper and would require some time to create. They’re currently in my drafts and will appear eventually.

There are times when I still don’t know what to write about, so I toss in funny quotes as fillers. Not the best form of content, but it keeps me active on the blog. I think this is the most consistency I’ve had in quite some time. I’m even looking into purchasing a domain to make my blog look more “official.” That has been in the plan for quite some time, but I want to make sure I remain active to get my money worth.

I will do another month’s challenge. Maybe do it in January and call it “Bloguary.” I will create an editorial calendar for that challenge and schedule a post in advance. My life isn’t hectic, but there are challenges within myself that I will discuss in a later post.
To wrap this up, so far so good with posts. They can be better, but “quality” content will be released soon. More deep thought pieces.

If you’re participating in Blogtober, how has it been going for you?

Motivational Quotes to Live By

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In a world that makes us constantly compare ourselves to others, we have to remember our journey is different. There’s nothing wrong with not being at a level that society randomly chose. Go at your own pace. As long as you keep moving forward towards what you want, you’ll get there on your own terms.

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We self-sabotage more than we realize. It’s so easy to think negative about yourself. Don’t think about the things you can’t do. Think about the things you can do. Put the energy in the right place and you’ll see a difference.

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We’ve all accomplished different things in life. Looking back, I’m quite sure you’ve overcome something you thought you never would. You’re stronger now because of it. If you’re trying to start something new, start today. You don’t have to wait until January 1 or the beginning of the week.

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There is a lesson in everything we’ve gone through. If you don’t learn from the situation, you’re doomed to repeat it.

The Difficulty, Yet Necessity, of Positive Thinking

Why is it so difficult to think positive yet extremely easy to be negative? Is it because we live in a negative world? One that constantly tells us we’re not good enough regardless of how hard we try. A society that constantly compares us to the next person and is quick to point out our flaws. What about our own internal struggles? We put ourselves down on a regular basis regardless of if the people who love us say the opposite.

I’ve noticed, in this supercharged political time, something as basic as a video of a cat playing with a ball of yarn can turn political in the comments. How can something so innocent and non-threatening make people think about politics? It’s as if some people look for the negative in everything or receive pleasure in triggering others to join their negative space.

How about we try to be more positive?

Take some time out of your day and think about the positive things in your life. If you have a hard time, start with the basics.

  1. You woke up.
  2. You have clean running water to wash your body and brush your teeth with.
  3. When you look in the mirror, compliment yourself as if you’re Johnny Bravo.

If you need some more ways to start thinking positive, here are 11 Ways to Boost Positive Thinking.

Let’s start the new week on a positive note!

Build Your Character

“Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action.” – Helen Gahagan Douglas

There is a myth that nobody can change their character. Your character isn’t permanent. It has a tendency to adapt to certain actions and situations.

So, how do you build character? Let’s start feeling strong-willed and firm.

Do the Right Thing

What exactly is doing the right thing? Well, that’s up to you. There are people who have the right values and will usually do the right thing, but they can still be unpleasant. Do you have a clear set of values and beliefs? These core values and beliefs will often stem from how you were raised, but as you get older, you have the power to change those values and beliefs to become a better person.

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Wednesday Was a Productive Day

Long time no write! Oof, it has been an interesting two years and I’ve really slacked up on my writing. I’ve been so busy with work that I literally come home, eat, and sometimes hop right into my bed and sleep for the rest of the night. I haven’t had much time to really concentrate on myself due to my awkward schedule. Now that I have control of my schedule, I have a bit more “me time.”

Yesterday, I randomly decided to get into bed and take a little nap. It, unfortunately, lasted until almost 1am. Thankfully, I didn’t have to go to work today, so I decided to do a little workout. I ended up lollygagging for about two hours until actually doing cardio with a mixture of weight lifting. I finished around 3:30am, hopped back into bed around 4:30am, blinked, and suddenly the sun was rising. Instead of letting my workout high diminish, I walked over to Dunkin Donuts a little after 6am to get coffee like a moron. As a result, I’ve been up all day without a nap and had one of the most productive days I’ve had in a while.

I ate breakfast, painted a canvas for my mother, ate lunch, cleaned my apartment, and now writing this blog post. All I have to do now is a workout and that will be done a bit later. This may not sound like much, but on my days off, I usually get lost on YouTube or Twitch looking at nothing important. For this to be one of the first days that I actually got a few things done is amazing.

Recently, I’ve started a fitness journey Instagram account. I’ll talk about my struggles of weight in a different post. I’ve been feeling more motivated lately. I don’t know why, but I shouldn’t question it.

Other than that, I’m feeling good! I’ve changed the title of this blog so many times that I think I’ve finally found a name that fits my personal journey. I’m getting my life after putting it on pause for so long!