I Remember…

Felt like writing today, but couldn’t figure out where to begin. Using the writing exercise of “I remember” to brain dump.

I remember when caller ID was a separate device and an extra charge on the phone bill. Now, caller ID is the standard.

I remember when landlines were dodgy and you could pick up your phone and hear another person’s partial conversation over the dial tone.

I remember when we had a dial tone.

I remember when the family size box of Kellogg’s Corn Flakes was $1.99.

I remember eating Kix, Rice Krispies, and corn flakes with a bunch of sugar that never dissolved at the bottom of the bowl. Each scoop had a nice portion of sugar to pair with my bland cereal.

I remember watching the Die Hard movie last Christmas, because it’s a Christmas movie, and noticed a scene revealing gas prices were 74¢ for regular and 77¢ for unleaded in LOS ANGELES.

I remember when I took my first sip of wine as a kid and thought it was the most disgusting thing ever. Now I love wine. The same happened when I first tried beer in my 20s. Disgusting! Now I can appreciate a good beer. Funny how our palate changes.

I remember when the internet was mailed to your home in the form of a free AOL trial CD. We had free internet for a while as we would cancel after 30-60 days and sign up with a new disk.

I remember when I was naïve of the foolery in the world. All I wanted to do was play outside, make mud pies, and sell them for five rocks to friends at my fake bakery.

I remember when I had an imaginary friend. Now I don’t have any friends. Just kidding, I have friends, but my imaginary friend, Stephanie, was better. 😀

I remember when I wanted to grow up, but once I grew up, I wished to be a kid. Let’s be honest, I never actually grew up. I have an adult body with the mind of a 15 year old who acts her age when she needs to. Actually, make that the mind of a 10 year old. I laugh at my own foolery sometimes.

I remember thinking coffee was disgusting. Now I drink it every morning and spike it with a little sumin’ sumin’ once in a while for no other reason than I’m grown and paid for everything in the fridge that sits under the roof I pay for. 😀

I remember BBQs with family lasting all day into the next morning. Great food, music, neighborhood friends would stop by for a plate, wonderful vibe. I remember and cherish those days.

What are some random things you remember that brings back good feelings or laughs?

Truths About Life That Goes Against Societal Norm

Not every woman wants to be a mother.
Why are people shocked when a woman says she doesn’t want to be a mother? Not every woman wants to have a child or raise one and that’s OK. A woman who admits to not wanting children receive the dirtiest confused looks I’ve ever seen. It’s usually followed up with the question “why” or “you’ll change your mind.”

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Answering Random Questions for Funsies Part 2

When I don’t have the urge to write, have writer’s block, or just want to get the mental juices flowing, I search for random internet questions to answer. You may view part one here

What will finally break the internet?
If people could log in to any website and receive $5,000 each time, I believe that would break the internet. Imagine simply logging in to WordPress and getting $5,000 deposited into your checking account. 

Does fate exist? If so, do we have free will?
No, I believe we have free will. What we work towards is what we accomplish. If you want to become a published author, you have to start writing. It isn’t going to appear out of thin air. If you want to be a pro athlete, you have to put in the work. There are things that happen for no complete reason. You may call it fate or a coincidence. It has to happen with no initiation of your own.

If you could teach everyone in the world one concept, what concept would have the biggest positive impact on humanity?
I would teach people empathy. We’re all different and experience life differently. It hurts to see people express themselves only to get shut down by someone simply because they’ve never experienced the same thing. So many people will say, “I’ve never experienced anything like that, so it doesn’t exist,” “I went to the same place and didn’t experience anything bad, so maybe you’re overthinking,” and the list goes on. People tend to make things about themselves instead of listening, empathizing, and understanding that we’re all individuals and experience things differently. It’s not anyone’s right to dismiss someone’s feelings and experiences simply because they’ve never experienced it themselves. People also need to learn to talk about “uncomfortable” topics. “If we stop talking about it, it will go away” isn’t a valid solution.

What’s a weird smell you enjoy?
No idea why, but I love the faint rubber/burning smell of an underground train station. I can’t fully describe the smell, but you’ve probably smelled it before without paying attention to it. I also like the smell of raw ground beef. I don’t eat beef and haven’t purchased it in a while, but I still remember the smell.

Why do we dream?
Not sure of the scientific reason, but I’ve read it’s a way for our brains to process emotions, our day, etc. It’s amazing how I dream about people and places with great detail. I can remember facial features, clothing, the feel of the weather, and smells as if I’ve met these people or been to these places before. I often wonder how my mind creates these things. Yes, I have dreams of family and friends, but I would consider that common, but complete strangers and my feelings towards them are intriguing.

What’s the dumbest way you’ve been injured?
I was doing a kickboxing workout and punched myself in the lip. I was really into the workout and retracted my punch a bit too hard. I had a swollen lip for a week.At least my guard was up and my chin was down.

What are some things that sound like compliments but are actually insults?
Any compliment that includes the words “for a.” Example, “You’re pretty for a [insert race, body type, hair color, etc.].” Any “compliment” mixed with “for a” is actually an insult. The person is basically saying based on your [insert race, body type, education, etc.] you’re an exception to whatever stereotype they have in their head of people who match your description.

What’s the craziest thing one of your teachers has done?
When I was in elementary school, my fifth-grade teacher and principal were competing for the attention and attraction of another teacher. I don’t remember if our parents pointed it out or if it was so obvious that we picked it up at 10-years-old.

If you could time travel, would you go to the past or future?
I’d go 1,000 years into the future. I’m curious about technology and how people have changed.

If you could know the absolute and total truth to one question, what question would you ask?
Is there an afterlife? I know religions have their versions of an afterlife, but I would love to ask a dead person for a definitive answer. I don’t want an answer from someone who was dead then came back to life. 

What movie scared you as a kid?
I was terrified of the Terminator’s skeleton. In the first Terminator, the CGI made the skeletal frame look creepy at the end of the movie. I was also afraid of The Predator because he killed people in stealth mode while making that snarling sound.

What would be on the gag reel of your life?
My entire life is a gag reel.

 

 

 

 

Answering Random Questions for Funsies

I’m using a random word generator for my word challenge and discovered the site also has a random question generator. I decided to answer some here for funsies.

What product would you seriously stockpile if you found out they weren’t going to sell it anymore?
Toilet tissue. Let’s be honest, being able to wipe your ass is important.

If you inherited a private jet from a stranger, what would you do with it?
This is a tough one. My first thought is to travel the world, but the cost of maintenance, paying the pilots, and fuel would be expensive. The question states I only inherit the jet. No money. The best option would be to sell the jet and take the money.

Would you rather be able to breathe underwater or have the agility of a cat?
I would rather breathe underwater. Why would I want the agility of a cat? I don’t plan on falling out of trees.

If you could learn any language fluently, what would it be?
Quenya. It’s the Elvish language from Lord of the Rings. Did you expect me to say a commonly used language? 😀

When scrolling through social media, do you prefer posts from celebrities or from your best friends?
Neither. I rather look at food and cats!

If you had unlimited resources, how would you live your life?
If this meant unlimited money, I would live stress-free. I wouldn’t have to worry about affording a quality level of health insurance. I would explore the world without worrying about running out of money.

What do people do too much of today?
Make everything political. If a cat is playing with a red ball of yarn on Instagram, the comments can get political. Can the cat just be a cat and play with a ball of yarn? Sheesh. It’s as if people these days are just looking to start an argument.

At what age did you become an adult?
Legally, 18. Mentally? It depends on the day.

 

Random Word Challenge: Discouraged

Day four of my random word challenge!

Today’s word is “discouraged.”

If you’ve gone through life never being discouraged by anything, I applaud you. Do you have any advice? 😀

Honestly, I have to remind myself to not be discouraged each time I think of something creative. When it comes to creativity for clients or my job, it’s easy. When things get personal, I’m my own worst critic.

There’s always someone better than you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t teach yourself and up your game.

It’s easy to find people who are doing better than you, but how you view them makes a difference. I enjoy baking, painting, writing, and design. Whenever I see someone doing better than me in those areas, I can get discouraged, but what good will that do?  If anything, that’ll make me want to quit. Instead, I look at that person and know I’ll be like them someday as long as I keep improving my craft. Use them as motivation instead of being discouraged.

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The last thing you want to do is look back and realize the same amount of time you spent self-sabotaging yourself, you could have been elevating your skills. It’s easy to fall into a negative space, but monumental when you can turn it around and use it as a driving force to do better.

Random Word Challenge: Chapters

It’s day three of my random word challenge. If you’re a bit confused, I’m using a random word generator to generate words in alphabetical order. Each day is a new letter and whatever word is generated is the word I write about.

Today’s word is “chapters.”

When I first saw this word, I couldn’t help but think of the chapters of life. I’ve met so many amazing people who have come and gone throughout my life. Whether through death or we drifted apart due to growing older. I’ve also met people who put on the facade of being good but they were narcissists, sociopaths, and downright disgusting people. There are some people I wish I’ve never met, but thinking back, they’ve only helped me get through the following chapters of my life.

Each person I’ve encountered in life is different and I’ve learned from them in some way. I’ve learned what real friendship is, what a user looks like, the subtle art of manipulation, how love feels, how love shouldn’t feel, and how my own personal values, morals, and worth plays a roll in all of my relationships.

I’ve known my closest friends for over 10 years. Although we’re still going strong as friends, we’ve had several chapters come to a close. These chapters include transitioning from teenagers to adults, going through our 20’s, helping each other through intimate relationships, arguing and disconnecting because of a disagreement, and reconnecting.

It’s amazing how we go through chapters in life learning little things, but we get the true ah-ha moment once we start reflecting. We may feel as though we ended a chapter, but sometimes we go back to it through memories and realize we’re still learning. After deep reflection, we end the chapter and feel more relief than when we first thought our minds were settled. Amazing how that works.

I’ve done some deep thinking over the past few years. Although I’m continuing with my life, my previous chapters are still there. Some more than others. Those chapters are the ones that are constant reminders to never put myself through something similar. One should never repeat a chapter of their life. Create new ones, but always remember the valuable lessons learned in previous chapters.

Random Word Challenge: Bacon

Random Word of the Day: Bacon

I couldn’t help but laugh when this word appeared. This is day two of my random word challenge. It seems like it’s going to be interesting. 😀 OK, let’s talk briefly about bacon.

Remember when people put bacon on and in everything the way they do Flamin’ Hot Cheetos now? Well, they still do. I’m all for a nice crispy piece of bacon, but bacon milkshakes and bacon ice cream was going too far. OK, I’ll admit I did have a breakfast ice cream that included maple flavored ice cream with bits of waffles and bacon. It wasn’t bad, but the soggy bits of bacon distracted my tastebuds from fully enjoying it. If a bacon milkshake sounds interesting to you, here’s a recipe. Honestly, I may try this milkshake myself. It looks good. No shame here.

I’ll never forget when I first saw a bacon bouquet. My first thought was people are crazy. After giving it some thought, I wouldn’t be mad if my man gave me one of these instead of roses. I’d laugh my ass off, but I sure would eat it.

bacon bouque

If you want your own bacon bouquet, here’s a recipe that includes chocolate.

Alright, now I’m craving bacon. Let me get up and workout to take my mind off of food.

 

 

 

5 Simple (But Important) Things To Remember About Blogging

Maintaining a blog isn’t always easy. Sometimes the ideas flow like water and other times your ideas are as dry as a desert. When the ideas are no longer flowing, you stop writing and your blog is forgotten until you come up with new content. Here are some simple but important tips I remind myself of when it’s time to write.

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Search the Web for Topics

If you find yourself experiencing writer’s block, search the web for blog topics. There are several websites that list hundreds of topics to dive into. Some websites offer blog topic generators. They aren’t the best, but they may help stimulate your mind.

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Brain Dump

We’ve all heard it before, but brain dumping is wonderful. Writing random words, thoughts, things you need to get done, just anything and everything can be therapeutic.  You can place items in order or scribble randomly on paper or in a program similar to Microsoft Word, but I highly recommend paper. If you still can’t figure out what to write, walk away from your brain dump and revisit it later. The more you do it, those random words become phrases, full sentences, and the next thing you know, you’re writing a full blog.

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Don’t Worry About Order

This is an interesting habit I’ve discovered about myself. When I write for clients, I tend to write things out of order then rearrange it before submission. For clients, I follow the inverted pyramid format. If you’re unfamiliar with that, it’s a writing style that features the most important information at the beginning of the article and filters down to the least important. The goal is to retain readers from beginning to end.

When I write for my blog, I don’t pay attention to the order… all the time. My only goal is to write. When you worry about the order, the structure may not come to you right away causing you to not want to write at all. When you have an idea, write about what comes to mind first. If you’re writing a story and you have a clear vision of how it ends, write the ending. Don’t wait until you write the beginning and middle. If you have to, write the story backward.

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It Doesn’t Have to be Deep

You don’t have to write a thesis. A blog can be as little as 300 words or images of your favorite quotes. This is called microblogging. Creating short and quick posts to stay active or to keep your community updated on life events, your brand, etc. works just as well as full-length content.

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Hit Publish

I won’t go into whether or not your grammar is correct, if your writing has flow, or if your blog is SEO friendly. There are other articles on the web for that. I’m here to encourage you to simply start writing.

Once your blog is complete, read over to see if you missed anything, and hit publish. Release it into the world wide web and feel the accomplishment of publishing content. There are amazing writers in the world, but it doesn’t come easy to everyone. Don’t doubt yourself. The more content your produce, the more hitting “publish” will be an afterthought. Just keep writing and have fun doing it!

 

 

Random Word Challenge: Advice

As I sat at my desk thinking of something to write, I’ve decided I’m going to do a random word challenge using each letter of the alphabet. I’m using an online random word generator. I insert one letter and the first word that pops up is going to be the word I write about. If you’ve done a similar challenge or want to join me, let me know in the comments.

Today’s word is “advice.”

I’ve received advice throughout the years, but none of it stands out as deeply memorable. I have found people, including myself, who will give advice that we should be following ourselves. It’s amazing how we subconsciously try to teach ourselves through the advice we give to others. Unfortunately, we don’t realize what’s happening until the person we gave the advice to gives it back to us.

Imagine your friend’s relationship ended. You provide all of the advice needed to help them overcome the obstacle of restarting their life without their lover, how to occupy their mind so they aren’t constantly thinking about their ex, advice on what they should take away from the relationship to better themselves, and so much more. As soon as you go through a breakup, you instantly forget the advice you gave. Your friend is now the one regurgitating what you told them. Interesting how that works.

My advice to you, the next time you give advice, listen to your own words and analyze whether or not you need to apply those words of wisdom to your life. Your advice may be the subconscious pep talk you needed.

 

 

 

Why is Blogging So Intimidating?

I’ve had this blog for quite some time. I’ve blogged for about a month, abandoned the site for a year, blogged again for about a week, then forgot about it again. Why? I honestly have no idea. This site was originally something else, but I exported my food content here. I don’t remember what I was doing with this site, but here we are.

I decided to challenge myself by participating in Blogtober. This would force me to write at least 31 posts during the month. This challenge has resulted in me being the most active blogger I’ve ever been. I think I’m one or two posts behind because life happens, but I’m still writing.

My ideas for blogs have changed so much because I felt I needed to write about one particular topic, but my mind is always thinking about a variety of things at any given moment. Why limit myself to one topic? This particular site is about anything and everything that comes to mind and I’m satisfied with this choice.

I understand why blogging is intimidating. I still feel intimidated. Sometimes I don’t know what to write. I automatically think my content has to be life-changing, have educational value or meaning. In reality, that’s far from the truth. Most people like to read blogs as if they’re reading about a friend. It’s all about a personal touch or connection. Be yourself. Write about your day, thoughts on what’s happening in the world, favorite TV shows, etc. Don’t write about heavy topics if that’s not what you enjoy.

Writing is similar to being an artist. You may have a great idea, but the white space on a canvas makes you instantly forget what the idea was or how to begin. You don’t have to be organized. Just start jotting things down. Don’t worry about the order in which to write. You can figure that out later. There have been several times where I switched the placement of paragraphs after writing because it flowed better.

Blogs don’t have to be lengthy. Start off writing 300 words. Over time, your fingers will glide across your keyboard with little effort.

All you have to do is start! I don’t have an editorial calendar, but if you like to be organized, think about what you want to write about in advance. You don’t have to post every day. Start with twice a week. Don’t make blogging a chore. When you look back at your blog, you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve come in consistency and writing style.
Don’t be intimidate. Just start writing. With consistency, you’ll develop the habit in no time.